What are Daddy Issues?
What Are Daddy Issues?
Everyone of us has daddy issues and everyone of us very often asks himself / herself why I meet inappropriate partner or why I repeat some models in my life?
What causes Daddy issues?
The theory of Daddy issues starts from Sigmund Freud- his theory of Oedipus Complex, which states a young boy may be attracted to his mother and feel competitive with his father — daddy issues can affect people of any gender. People with daddy issues have at least one thing in common: their relationships with their fathers did not offer the love and support they needed to thrive. We hear very often – you are searching your mother or you are searching your father in the relationship. But why is it so and how can we be fully aware of not following this model? Everything starts from our childhood. Everyone needs the both parent figures in order to be safely grown up and healthy developed.
The role of the father is exactly as much important as the role of the mother. The father is the figure who sets boundaries and establishes the rules of the family, but unfortunately not everyone of us is fortune to have a presenting father figure. The lack of a stable emotionally and psychologically male figure is the cause of our daddy issues. As a result, people with daddy issues can have difficulty establishing mature relationships with males in adulthood.
What Are The Types of Fathers That Can Cause Daddy Issues?
To understand better if someone has a daddy issues I would like to point out the type of fathers who are prerequisite for daddy issues:
1.Emotionally absent father
He is physically there but emotionally he is not there. For example he is not able to support or meet the needs of the child.
2.Abusive father
He cannot control his emotions and the only way to control and set rules is via Abuse . It can be verbal, physical, emotional.
3. Controlling father
The controlling father wants to be overly involved in every area of his daughter’s life, always trying to shield her from being disappointed. Growing up with this type of father might result in a woman seeking out dominating partners.
4. Father who is always distressed
Usually the child adores his / her father but this type of father does not allow this process to happen, because the father figure seems to be quite weak. As a grown woman, she may be rebellious and possibly depressed.
5. Father who is physically dependent upon their children
If a child must provide basic daily needs for her father’s survival, it can lead to low self-esteem as an adult and it can be load to mislead and misuse in the relationship.
Signs You May Have Daddy Issues
1. You need reassurance of the love and presence of your partner.
2. You are possessive and give no space of your partner.
3. You need an excessive amount of sex because you believe that this is the only way to be sure that you are loved and appreciated by men.
You Are Interested in Older Men
You date older men- 10 till 15 years older than you
You Attract Abusive Partners
You are easily catches in the Carpmen triangle- you choose to be the victim of some abusive dynamics.
You Don’t Want to Be Alone
You are afraid of being alone and you jump from one relationship to another without giving yourself time for self- reflection.
How to Cope with Daddy Issues?
Start your therapy ASAP or find an articles who can help you to understand this topic better for yourself.
Practice Self-Care and Self-Reflection: Engage in activities that promote well-being and take time to reflect on your experiences and patterns.
